What in the crap is wrong with Baby D's birth parents? I mean I know what's wrong with them..sorta, but I mean what the crap? They canceled EVERY visit in the month of February (wait...they might have had a visit the first Friday in February, I'd have to check) but STILL. They only saw him twice in January because they canceled all other visits then too.
Last night at 8:00pm, they called the social worker and canceled today's visit? The reason?
"We have some errands we need to run."
WHAT!?!
Okay, lemme make sure I understand you correctly. You've been sick, without healing, for about 2 months straight (although not too sick to file their taxes..but that's another story for another time). Then, when you're finally "well" enough to see your son (the one you claim to care so much about that when the social worker suggests you consider relinquishing your rights, it sends you into a furious rage) you cannot see him because your schedule is so packed with "errands" that you cannot spare TWO FRIGGIN' HOURS to see your baby?
Give me a break. I've been sitting on this all day, and the more I think about it the more angry I get. I'm glad that they are digging themselves into such a hole that on March 16th the judge would have to be blind, dumb and without ANY competent thought what-so-ever to NOT change the plan to TPR (Termination of Parental Rights).
Everytime I think about it I just burn with anger. However, at the same time, I am so filled with sadness for them. Sadness because they do not know what they are missing. Sadness that they don't understand or know a Savior. Sadness because when Baby D is a man, he will have to accept the fact that his Birth Parents didn't do a single thing to try to get him back.
I've felt rejection from a parent and it burns you to your core. It hurts beyond any hurt I've ever felt. To know that I have a parent who knows where I am, that they could have a part of my life, yet they make no effort to really know me, well, it's painful. And it's a pain that my sweet boy will know one day, as he grows into a man.
He doesn't know any pain from them now. All he knows is that I'm his momma, his daddy loves him and he has the craziest siblings, who he loves without fail. But one day, in the not-so-distant future, he will awaken to the realization that they failed him. I pray that when this time comes, that he will know the Father deeply. That he will see the provision that God has made for him and that the pain will be healed by the hands of the One who knows all pain.
Sweet Father, please guard his heart until the time that You can heal all hurts. Guard him Lord until he becomes the man You have chosen Him to be. Give him mercy and compassion for these people who conceived him and allow him to shower them with Your love, unlike any other.
I get anxious about that day, too, when Mason realizes he was rejected. It is a feeling no parent wants their children to know. But, I'm praying that he will realize through it how sad life can be without Christ. It's hard to say what D's parents are thinking or trying to accomplish. It really sounds like they are letting go but want to remain the victims. You are in my prayers tonight...and so are they.
ReplyDeleteYou have a lot more self-control than I do! That is so pathetic--to be so busy that they cannot spend a couple hours with their child?! I would probably be carted off to jail during the court proceedings for voicing my opinions! Brent tells me I need to keep my mouth closed more often!
ReplyDeleteI've said it before, but I'll tell you again...you are doing an awesome job! You are pouring God's love and a mother's love into them every minute of the day and that will give them the foundation they need to be able to handle whatever comes their way.
Vonda
Oh and thanks for putting that thought about Toots and Puddle into my head! Jake was watching it this afternoon and that was the first thing I thought of. My kids thought I was crazy when I started laughing for no apparent reason!
ReplyDeleteI do know your anger..But I also remember why We are foster parents...To love and protect the children..I know that God called My husband and I to be foster parents to love and Pray for the parents that probably know that TPR is coming and that is why they don't show up to visit.It is probably hurts them to know that this could be the last time they get to see the baby boy that they thought they were going to be parents to.
ReplyDeleteBe patient and pray..It will all happen in God's timing.
Rhonda
Who wouldn't want to see such a precious baby like Baby D?! That's horrible that his parents don't want to see him!
ReplyDelete-Anna Gray
Echoing your prayers for Baby D. May he realize foremost that he is special and CHOSEN...by you guys and his Heavenly Father!
ReplyDeleteHis birth parents have been coming to mind a lot lately. We will keep praying.
ReplyDeleteI am scared to death of the consequences of the choices of ADULTS in my children's lives and how they will affect them in the future. The only conclusion I have come to is that I, as well as my husband, HAVE to be the constants in their lives...... the ones who offer stability and consistency. I see this in your lives and I pray that this will instill the love and security that your children need. You are doing a good job...... keep it up!
ReplyDeleteStephanie
I'm sure glad he's got you guys to help in his development. He needs a mother AND a father, and good ones at that. He's quite a lucky little guy.
ReplyDeleteI think their actions are just par for the course. Don't expect them to be responsible, caring, hard working, or beneficial to the world in any way. I can promise you.... selfishness rules their life. In my opinion it's one of our entire country's #1 problems. Just don't look for them serving at the soup kitchen or signing up for the military anytime soon....